Normally I let the me time go for a LONG time. Usually that coincides with a new baby. It's hard to get away from them (nor do you really want to) for any length of time because the new baby really wants to be with mommy, and usually no one else. After, say, the first six months though, when baby is figuring themselves out, and becoming more independent, that's when I usually need a break. I try to grab a little reading time here, a little knitting in there, some internet, a coffee break, whatever. My issue tends to be I do not know how to ask for this time. I have found that my husband is very amicable and supportive of this time, but for whatever reason, I have a hard time setting it up. Mommy guilt. Oh, very likely. I think that even though I am a full time mom, I still don't even see it as "work" as much an outside the home or "paying" job. Which, logically I know is absolutely laughable! Sadly, the deeply ingrained cultural mind set of the perfect SAHM, has rooted itself into my psyche, and even though I KNOW I am human and need a break too, and I know that I do a LOT of work (more than when I was working outside of the home), I still don't tend to myself until it is often too late.
What do YOU do to give yourself a break? Do you have a system worked out with your partner? How do you find your "me time"?
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Ummm... what is "me" time again?? After four kids, I've even started to think that me time is just when I only have one or two kids with me! What I think is hard is the fact that when the hubby's gone all week and I'm a bit starved for adult interaction, once the weekend comes I want to be with the hubby and family and have a little adult conversation... not be by myself! It's also difficult because I don't have any clear cut "hobbies" so it feels a little odd saying, oh you take all four kids... I just want to sit here drink a coke, sit in the sun, and read trash magazines for an hour. It would be so much easier it I said I wanted to go mountain bike or surf. G does push me out the door sometimes to see a movie or something of the sort, and I honestly love that. I need that extra push out the door... I'm grateful for it (although maybe it could happen a bit more often). The problem is that I'm a work first, play later person. Being a mom, the work is never done, so the play doesn't come around that often!
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